Is your relationship male/female even though you are both gay/?

I have read that gay and relationships have a butch and a fem.Well,in my 1 and a half year relationship with Cora (my love) neither one of us has umed the roll of the male.We both dress femininely,we both like to look pretty and we both have long hair.So,this is just a news flash to the people that think that there is only supposed to be a man and a woman and that the gay and community just prove you right by being all manly and feminine.I'm not the only one who is girly with her girl right?I know!That there are some butchy guys with .....butchy guys.lol